Noisy, Plastic Toys From Grandparents
It is a universally accepted fact that children learn through play.
In Montessori, we know that the quality of play also makes a big difference. Therefore, it makes perfect sense for modern parennts to be a little particular about which toys serve to help nurture the whole child, and which don’t measure up.
But this episode isn’t about what toys are best for children!
Nope….we’re troubleshooting what to do with all the toys that you receive from loving friends and relatives (for example, your child’s grandparents).
Some of those toys you may authentically appreciate and want to keep.
Others may conflict with the educational experience you are doing your best to provide to your child at home.
As parents, we not only serve the children in our home but all of the people who orbit them and lavish love upon them. We want to handle this sensitive issue with grace and courtesy, kindness and and consideration. But how?
In this episode, I read a letter from a mama who acknowledges that her mother in law’s “love language” is gift-giving, and the toys are not exactly the kind she would have chosen for her child.
Dive in as I offer some tips for managing the unwanted toy overload while maintaining gratitude as the center of the grandparent-parent-child relationship.
The Montessori Magic for today is an exploration into the sound cylinders, a sensorial activity.
And remember: just like tea, your parenting efforts need time to brew.
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Tips for managing gift giving grandparents:
Respect their love language and make sure they know the thought is appreciated!
Set boundaries around what is appropriate in your home/for your children.
What you CANNOT control is what exposures/experiences your child has in the world.
Since you CAN’T control it, focus on making a plan for teaching YOUR values to your child.
Celebrate with your child the different ways people show their love, and as they get older, they’ll be able to understand and distinguish the types of relationships they have with different people.
Different people have different levels of willingness to be educated on child rearing philosophies--only YOU can judge the relationship you have with your family.
Practical Ideas for Dealing with Excess Toys (Here’s What Worked for Us):
Allow a period of time to play with those toys (a few weeks).
Rotate those toys out of use and into storage--out of sight, out of mind!
After a few months of non-use, feel free to take them and donate them.
If you and your child can be authentically grateful for the gift, the amount of time it stays in your house should be unimportant.
But don’t just do what I do! What works for you MAY VARY depending upon your family’s values, personality traits, and local culture.
And speaking of brewing up some good parenting…
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