When your child is having an emotional meltdown, it's hard to keep your cool!
What if your child is crying uncontrollably or is kicking and screaming on the floor? What then? No matter what, realize that it is your job as the parent to push your own emotions aside as much as possible in order to help your child. But how? It takes practice and a lot of determination.
In this video, I ask you to turn your thinking about tantrums around. Instead of seeing the tantrum as something negative to nip in the bud, look at it from an educational perspective...a positive learning opportunity for both you and your child.
What do you think? Can a tantrum become your best friend?
Click here to watch Making Tantrums a Positive Experience on YouTube.
Tips for Success
- Be their voice. Children do not always know how to communicate their frustrations to you. Your job is to help teach them how.
- Be strategic. There are two times when your child is more likely to be in a receptive state: before the tantrum starts (watch the video on preventing tantrums here) and after the tantrum is over. If at all possible, use those times to your advantage.
- Keep cool. During the tantrum itself, remain compassionate and patient until it's over. If your child likes to be hugged, provide physical comfort. If your child prefers to be left alone, just hang out sympathetically nearby until the tantrum is over.
- Keep firm. If you said no to something your child wanted to do, really mean no and stick to it. Don't give in just because there is a tantrum. Giving in will not solve the problem. Discussing feelings and coming up with solutions and compromises will.
- Be kind to yourself. You're only human. Every tantrum gives you the chance to grow and change as a parent to meet your own unique child's needs. By putting a positive spin on the situation, you are not only empowering yourself, you are raising a child who will learn how to put life's hurdles into perspective.